All evening and weekend activites
and athletic events have been canceled for
Friday (12/06/13) and Saturday (12/07/13).
This includes practices.
Coaches will notify players tomorrow by
late morning if there are practices tomorrow
Finish Strong – Newsletter #97
Bruce Brown/Rob Miller – Proactive Coaching LLC
The end of the school year is crazy. One of the lessons our athletes should have learned from their coaches and teachers is to finish strong. Also, we are going to start offering specials on our materials to those of you on our distribution list – see this week’s special below.
We post 2 or 3 thoughts everyday on our facebook page. Here are some recent posts:
Graduation is an exciting time but as a teacher, coach and parent, this time of year always worries me. There are way too many stories of poor decisions that lead to school discipline or even horrible accidents. High school seniors, you only have a few days or weeks left. Finish strong! If you have a parent, teacher, coach or teammates who trusted and believed in you, maintain that trust by choosing the hard right over the easy and convenient wrong. Coaches, this is a good time to reconnect with your athletes to remind them how much they mean to you and that on great teams, the standards apply for life not just during the season. It might just take not wanting to let someone who loves them down to keep them safe.
Almost everyone is in favor of high standards, expectations and rules for our student/athletes at the start of the season but too many parents want an exception when it turns out to be their son or daughter. Which lesson best represents your family… that normal rules don’t apply to us or that poor decisions have consequences? Own it, learn from it and move forward.
Team Leaders… It is difficult to produce a result that is larger than your vision, so think big. The best leaders are tough minded visionaries, they do not just casually hope. Hope is not a strategy.
There is a fine line between involvement and interference and between encouragement and pressure. The athlete can feel it faster than we can.
Team Leaders – this is what you want your coaches to say about you…
One of our favorite clients has been the Vanderbilt University Baseball team. One of their leaders this year is Connor Harrell – what a great statement about this young man…"When you are early on in middle school or younger, sometimes leadership is about ability. The older you grow, the more it is about character and that is certainly true about Connor. Leaders of character draw people to them. Harrell's team-first approach and selflessness has rubbed off on his teammates throughout his time here. The way he carries himself and represents Vanderbilt's baseball program on a day-to-day basis sets the tone for the rest of the team and can be as valuable as what he does on the field. He epitomizes everything Coach Corbin says is a Vanderbilt baseball player” How fun is it to coach when you have leaders like this??? Vandy is currently 41-6 and ranked 2nd in the nation.
Leaders… Understand who you are working with. Happy, confident people solve problems. Unhappy people find or create problems even when there aren’t any… Build your team with happy, secure people – or people who can become that way.
Coaches and Parents… If your athlete competes long enough they will be faced with all these scenarios:
They played well but the team lost
They played poorly and the team lost
They played poorly and the team won
They played well and the team won
They played sparingly and the team won
They played well but it didn’t show (for example, they have 4 great at bats but go 0 for 4)
Decide how you want them to respond and then model that exact behavior – think about what lessons they can learn
from each and talk about it ahead of time.
Following the theme of reinforcement… The best competitors are realists and have developed a teachable spirit (the
ability to take correction as a compliment). When a parent always tells their athlete that their performance was
“incredible” it can make it difficult for the coach who is trying to get them to take correction and improve. If it is
deserved, you can always praise effort and attitude.
Simple guidelines for the parent of an Athlete (by Proactive Coaching-Bruce Brown)Before the first game ask yourself the following questions:
- Why do I want my child to play this sport?
- What goals do I have for him/her?
- If there are roles, what role do I want them to play?
- How will I decide if it's a successful season?
- Why are you playing?
- What goals do you have?
- What do you think your role will be on the team?
- What is a successful season?
Here are the red flags that indicate that you haven't "released" your child:
- You continue to share in the credit when things go well. "We won." No, they won.
- You find yourself trying to resolve all the problems that will inevitably come up during a season. Most of these problems will be relationship problems.
- You catch yourself yelling at an official during the game.
- You try to continue to coach them when they know more about the sport than you do (about 9th grade.)
- They try to avoid you after the game or they're embarrassed by your involvement.
- You are more nervous before the game than they are
- You're still fretting about the game long after they're over it
- Be there. However, if you've been to every practice and game since they were four, don't go sometime and see what your athlete wants to bring back to you.
- Model appropriate behavior. Bruce videotaped himself early in his coaching career and found that what he thought of as intensity came off as scary ugly! He reformed. To develop kids who will be poised and confident under pressure, we must model the same.
- One instructional voice. This needs to be the voice of the coach. Kids find it very confusing when they hear multiple people. Encouraging voices are OK.
- Focus on the team, not on your little darling.
- Choose one role. There are four roles - player, coach, spectator and official. Everyone gets to choose one.
When kids are asked about bad memories from athletics, the most consistent answer is the car ride home with mom and/or dad after the game.
Here's how to make that car ride home a positive:
- Save your analysis. Don't analyze their play, the officials, their teammates, the coaching, the conditions, etc.
- Give your athlete time and space. Kids need time and space to recover. Some need an hour, others a week.
- Be a confidence builder and not a confidence cutter. What can you say? Things like
- I love watching you play.
- I love watching you be part of a team.
- I love how you're such a great encourager of your teammates.
Any athlete who exhibits signs, symptoms or behaviors consistent with a concussion following an observed or suspected blow to the head or body, or who has been diagnosed with a concussion, shall not be permitted to return to that contest, or any other athletic contest or practice on that same day. In school districts which have the services of an athletic trainer registered by the Oregon Board of Athletic Trainers, that athletic trainer may determine that an athlete has not exhibited signs, symptoms, or behaviors consistent with a concussion, and has not suffered a concussion, and return the athlete to play. Until an athlete who has suffered a concussion is no longer experiencing signs, symptoms, or behaviors consistent with a concussion, and a medical release form signed by an appropriate Health Care Professional (Physician (MD), Physician's Assistant (PA), Doctor of Osteopathic (DO) licensed by the Oregon State Board of Medicine, nurse practitioner licensed by the Oregon State Board of Nursing, or Psychologist licensed by the Oregon Board of Psychologist Examiners) is obtained, the athlete shall not be permitted to return to athletic activity. Athletic trainers may also work in consultation with a Health Care Professional in determining when an athlete is able to return to play following a concussion. (Fall 2011)